Ok, where do I begin. My husband's ex wife is a cocaine addict....we've had many many court battles, she's accused him of beating her (charges were dropped by judge), no matter what she did, the judge would give her the kids, even after she admitted to a drug problem. During the last battle, my husband gets accused of saying sexually inappropriate comments to his oldest daughter....all of the sudden, he's not allowed to see his kids....DCF shows up and threatens to take my kids as well. We both retain lawyers, DCF drops the case against me and my kids. My husband, being at his wits end tells the judge he is DONE. He will pay his child support, but he's not going to participate in this anymore. After this accusation will come another and another and another, so he will pay, but he's relinquishing his visitation rights. That was back in 2003....now we've been contacted by his ex-wife. She is dying, and not expected to make it to the end of the year, the two oldest are over 18, but the youngest two are 14 and 16...and they now live in North Carolina. What do we do now? Can we just put in a modified parenting plan here in Brevard county to reestablish visitation, and have her designate my husband to get the kids when she dies in a Will? Do we have to go through DCF? (uggg, the thought of that makes me sick to my stomach). Is this done here or in North Carolina.....over half his paycheck goes to child support, there's no way we can afford an attorney. I'm pretty good with the forms, just need some direction.. what do we do? We're desperate and definitely don't have the luxury of time.